The Perfect You
Self-confidence comes from within. It cannot be bought,
sold or given away. However, it can be built up or unfortunately
torn down. Learn to be your greatest advocate and best friend.
Celebrate your successes and learn and grow from your failures.
While going through the changes of adolescence it’s
sometimes difficult to feel good about everything all of the
time, but the WayneTeens.Com Pages are here to empower
you and give you the tools to kick the ugly duckling syndrome
and race to participate in the “real” swan experience
Problems with self-esteem are a part of being human. When
you feel bothered with low self-esteem, use the suggestions
below to help you work on your situation. Remember to be patient
with yourself; change takes time.
- Stop using the word “should”.
Live your life on the basis of what is possible for you
and what feels right for you instead of what you or others
think you should do. "Should" keeps you from identifying
and fulfilling our own needs, abilities, interests and personal
goals. Find out what you want and what you are good at.
Value those and take action to help live up to your potential.
- Respect your own needs. Recognize and
take care of your own needs and wants first. Identify what
really makes you happy in the long run. Respecting your
deeper needs will increase your sense of self worth and
- Set realistic goals. When making goals
consider what you can realistically achieve and then work
step-by-step to develop your potential. Unrealistic goals
such as “Anything less than an A in school is always
unacceptable”—can increase stress levels and
give you a sense of failure if you do not reach that goal.
- Think positively. Stop listening to
your “mean inner self.” When you notice that
you are doubting yourself, change the negative thoughts
into positive ones.
- Find out what success feels like. Find
and put yourself in such situations where you are most likely
to succeed. Also look for projects that stretch your ability.
- Take chances. New experiences (both
good and bad) are learning experiences. Making mistakes
is part of the process. Don’t be upset if you don’t
do it perfectly. Feel good about trying something new.
- Solve problems. Don’t avoid problems.
Running away from problems can lower your self-confidence.
Face them and find ways to either solve them or cope with
- Make good decisions. Practice making
and carrying out good decisions. Trust yourself to deal
with the consequences.
- Develop your skills. Know what you can
and cannot do. Determine what skills you need; learn them
and practice them.
- Highlight your strengths. Focus on what
you can do rather than what you cannot do. Accept your limitations
and live within them. Also, think of strengths you might
want and need in the future.
- Rely on your own opinion of yourself.
Listen to feedback from others, but don’t rely on
their opinions. Depend on your own values in making decisions.
It is up to you to decide how you feel about yourself and
what is right for you to do.