How to say No and Remain Abstinent
- Be honest - talk things over ahead of time
– Talk with your boyfriend or girlfriend and make
sure they understand that you have chosen abstinence. Be
firm in that decision. You may choose to tell them why you
have chosen abstinence. Often teens will choose abstinence
because of their religious beliefs or because they have
goals they want to accomplish. Pregnancy can get in the
way of those goals. Know that the right person will respect
- Stay out of compromising situations –
avoid being home alone with your boyfriend or girlfriend
after school. Plan your dates with other friends instead
of just as a couple. Avoid dating people a lot older than
you. Make sure the clothes you wear are also saying “no”
and not “yes”!
- Respect yourself. You should not feel
alone if you choose not to have sex. One-half of all U.S.
teenagers are not sexually active. You are not alone! It
really is ok to be abstinent! Be proud of your choice
– you may be surprised at how good it will make you
- Set Goals – Think about what you
want to do in life – stay in school – get a
good education so you can get a good job! Reach for the
stars – you deserve the very best!
- Rely on your faith – If you have
chosen to be abstinent because of your religious faith then
hang on to that for support! It is one of the major factors
that help many teens to choose and practice abstinence.
- Look to others who care about you for support
– most people who want the best for teens are going
to support your choice to be abstinent. It may be your parents,
a special teacher, your youth minister or pastor, school
nurse or health educator, etc. When you’re feeling
you’re all alone in this choice reach out for support.
Just know they are there for you!
For more information on abstinence check out www.notmenotnow.org