Abstinence Essay Contest 1st Place
Brandy Hardison, a recent graduate from Charles B. Aycock
High School is presented with 1st place by Kristin Mcintosh-Tri
of the Wayne County Health Department Health Education Program.
Brandy will be using her scholarship while attending Meredith
College starting this fall (2006). She will be Majoring in
She received a $1000 college scholarship, $200 gift certificate
to Berkeley Mall, $5 gift certificate to McDonalds, a T-Shirt
that says "I'm worth waiting for", and a certificate
of Recognition for 1st Place.
Abstinence - The Sure Way to Prevent Pregnancy
While there is no question that we are receiving
more pressure than ever to give up our purity for a false
understanding of what love is - in a generation that sees
no problem with` expressing affection through sexual activity
- the ultimate responsibility for our safety, education, health,
and direction in life is up to us.
My generation is surrounded by immoral activity
from all sides: television, internet; magazines, movies, song
lyrics and even in peers. Immorality is depicted as "cool",
never showing the consequences of our choices; only glamorizing
the immoral conduct. Life doesn't have to be so complicated,
there once was a time of innocence. Our country has been promoting
birth control and "safe" sex for years now; yet,
America leads the free world in teenage pregnancy and Sexually
Transmitted Diseases. I feel there is an even better solution
to all of these problems. Sure, many people view it as old
fashioned or even an implausible way of life. I feel, though,
that it is very possible to be popular, to have fun and to
have a boyfriend without having sex, for I am living proof.
The solution l practice is sexual abstinence. One-tenth of
young woman between 15 and 19 get pregnant every year, 83%
of these pregnancies are unwanted or unplanned. Over half
of unmarried teens who get pregnant do so within six months
of their first sexual experience.
The statistics are scary, but the only reliable
method to prevent such unwanted pregnancies is abstinence,
it's the 100% advantage that many teenagers decline to call
their form of protection, l choose abstinence, because I am
not ready to have a baby. Having a child would alter the plan
for my life that's already embedded in my mind. I'm 17, unmarried,
and l have a world of opportunity out there waiting just for
me. Why would l want to mess that up by having sex with a
guy who says he loves me, yet is forcing me to choose between
him and my future goals? It is often said that teenagers use
the physical aspect of a relationship to receive the emotional
part. Is the emotional part really worth worrying every single
month that you're going to get pregnant and your parents are
going to find out? No, in my opinion, it is not.
My generation can not continue on this life-style
roller coaster. With pregnancy rates growing all across the
nation, more people have to speak up and teach young people
that it is okay to say no to sexual activity. Again, it is
the only sure way not to become pregnant. I feel very strongly
regarding this issue, so strongly that on my path to obtain
the Miss North Carolina crown, I have chosen to take a stand
against teenage or unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted
diseases and the physical and emotional stress that sexual
activity can cause. I have built my platform around Abstinence:
The Pure Promise. My hope is to reach out to my peers and
speak to them regarding this very serious issue - To make
a promise to remain sexually abstinent - preventing unwanted
I view my virginity as a gift to my future husband.
I don't know him yet, but I know he's going to be deserving
of my love and for my waiting for him.... and all those punk
guys I dated in high school will not come close in comparison.
I choose to be sexually abstinent for the health and happiness
of myself, my parents, my future husband, and my future
children. I do this because I have set high standards for
the way I live my life. l have made the pure promise.